7.18.2014

Coffee with Jen


Jen talks about God's expectations of us compared to our own.  She loves to drink a cup of green tea in the mornings with a teaspoon of honey. 

I am my worst critic at all times! I am very hard on myself. I feel like I always set myself up for failure because I have this high standard that is unachievable for the way a "Christian" should live. I also try to apply those same standards to my life which causes a lot of disappointment on my part. I am somewhat "OCD" which adds even more pressure to my supposed high standards because I always want my house to look perfect which with kids is impossible!  My husbands always telling me, " it's ok you didn't finish the dishes or have clothes neatly put away in everyone's drawer before bed". My family is afraid I'm going to turn my kids into little OCD children because I require them to do things a certain way and everything must be in its place before they go to bed. I make my daughter get up early for school so that she can make her bed and make sure her room is just so before she leaves for the day.  

I need to adjust my expectations for my life and reading Romans 8:1-4 helps me do that. 

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. For God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh, could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.

God knew I couldn't be perfect.  He loved me so much He gave me a way to spend eternity with Him despite myself. I often have to just take a breath and get a hold of myself and use this chapter as a reminder that I can't do this without His grace. God's grace fully covers me. He expects me to try my best. Some days I feel my best is only 20%, but I know even if it's a bad day he will meet me that other 80%. In verse 38, it speaks of how nothing can separate us from His love. I think of how much I love my children and want them to succeed in everything they do, and to know that our Father wants that even more for us is comforting.

A little about Jen: 
I have been married to my best friend Josh for 10 years.  We have two beautiful children, Keira Marie, age six and Seth Alexander, age two.  My husband is a Firefighter/EMT for the City of Norfolk and I get the awesome opportunity of being a stay at home mom. Being a stay at home mom is something I have wanted since I was a little girl. We prayed for five years for me to be able to stay at home with the kids and last year my dream finally came true.  So for all of the working mom's who share this same dream, continue to believe for it! God can and will provide a way. It is just not always in our timing.